The GREAT DATE NIGHT

One of my favorite settings to sing and minister is the Great Date Night event for adults. This is not a regular weekly or monthly coffeehouse, but a special once-a-year event planned by a church with the expressed purpose of reaching out to its community. I typically do 6-10 of these each year, and the number is growing! It has served as an excellent opportunity for the adults in a church to invite friends, co-workers, and neighbors to an enjoyable night out where there is a relaxed atmosphere, good "entertainment", a chance to listen, laugh and learn, with great desserts and some time to sit and interact. Church members then have the opportunity to follow up with their guests within the natural flow of their lives. Many churches have seen "guests" return and eventually become a part of their church family. It has been a great match for me as a musician and minister as the crowds, ages anywhere from 25 - 60, and I have really seemed to "click". Below I have outlined the format, the distinctives and the benefits of this type of event:

SUGGESTED FORMAT:
(this can be altered to fit your needs)

The room is set up with chairs at tables with candles and snacks.
Members sign up ahead of time to "fill a table" (4-8 seats). Guests are not forced to interact with strangers but can sit with the people that invite them.
People arrive around 6:45-7:00 and can help themselves to coffee, teas, hot cider, sodas.
I do my first set of music from 7:10-8:00, which is lighter and includes several songs and humorous stories that deal with family, marriage, etc.
There is a 30-40 minute break for people to go through a dessert buffet line and to have the chance to interact around their tables.
I do another 30 minute set in which my songs and comments weave in the Gospel message.

DISTINCTIVES:
The Great Date Night is not set up as a typical concert, i.e. rows of chairs or pews with everyone facing forward.
The event is not promoted through the typical means, i.e., posters, newspaper and radio, but solely through personal invitations by members to people they want to reach.
There is no offering or door charge as the cost of the concert is covered by the outreach budget or even an offering that is received at church the Sundays leading up to the event.
No kids allowed and no nursery. Get a sitter. This allows people to be free from the concern about getting home in time to put the kids to bed.
Should happen just once a year...twice at the most. Keep it a special and do it up right!!

BENEFITS:
The Great Date Night...
is a lot of fun!!
is an effective method to reach adults. Churches tend to work especially hard to reach children and teens, but often do very little for adults.
encourages church involvement. Members make the desserts, set up the room, invite their friends and basically get excited about reaching out to people they know!!
introduces new people to your church who already know someone who attends.
encourages church members to be salt and light in their workplace, neighborhood, etc.


FEEDBACK:
Read some thank yous from several churches after hosting their first GREAT DATE NIGHT / Outreach Coffeehouse:

Mark,

"Thanks so much for being with us at Christ Wesleyan last night. You are really a true instrument of God's grace and humor!! We felt like we were on a spirited roller coaster ride with your songs that brought on conviction, laughter and tears. This is exactly the kind of Outreach Event we had pictured, and you made it happen! Keep on serving this way and we can't wait to have you back! God bless you and your family!"

Pastor Bill Miller
Missions, Outreach & Evangelism
Christ Wesleyan Church
Milton, PA


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Dear Mark,

"THANK YOU for coming to Middle Octorara in March. Everyone told me how much they enjoyed the coffeehouse. I especially love hearing your stories about the children. The one about the two boys ( who are close in age) "hiding" from you with their heads down at the dining room table is precious. I had 3 boys and the memories are so great. Also, I know everyone appreciates your personal testimony about your walk with Christ - helps us all to remember our walk - and helps those who haven't gotten there yet to consider what they're missing.

I'm sure we will ask you back again - probably in a year or so."



Fondly and In Christ,

Boni Phipps
Event Coordinator
Middle Octorara Presbyterian Church
Quarryville, PA



If you have any further questions in regard to this type of event or if
you are interested in setting one up at your church, feel free to call me
at 717-792-4654 or email me.